Have you ever heard of the expression ‘Be High Value!’? I came across the High Value concept through Matthew Hussey – one of the people who has influenced me the most in my own journey through Personal Development.
The High Value concept refers to a behaviour we can adopt based on the best version of ourselves. This article is about the qualities High Value people exhibit and the benefits it brings to their lives.
When you embark on a journey to improve who you are, it’s inevitable to experience ups and downs, twists and turns, and feel like your world is being turned upside down. However, as long as you learn something as a result, all of the turmoil is a part of the process.
During my own journey, I’ve come to believe that there are infinite ways of seeing things and that, when you allow yourself to open your mind to other perceptions and other concepts, your life becomes much richer.
Being High Value is a behaviour. Have you ever been told “Just be yourself?” That’s probably the most unhelpful piece of advice anyone can give you because you can only be yourself at any one time and nobody else, right? A much more helpful piece of advice would be: “Be the best version of yourself!”
We all have ‘versions’ of ourselves. And most of the time, we are reacting to external circumstances. We have versions of us for everything: bad day version, good day version, angry version, happy version, sad version, ‘feeling sorry for ourselves’ version, etc, etc… Being a High Value individual relates to cultivating the BEST version of ourselves at all times!
Now, this doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to have negative patches… It means that once you cultivate High Value behaviour and the best version of yourself, you’ll know how to handle tough times and the turmoil won’t seem so bad.
So what are the qualities of High Value People?
- High Value People are happy just because…They have developed and strengthened their Core Confidence and self-esteem so that their happiness comes from within! They are positive people who always see the good in others and make the best of any negative circumstances. They understand their self worth isn’t affected by what other people think, or external circumstances. They project happiness and positivity to others. They live by their Core Values and have very high standards that they adhere to for their own lives and for what they expect in others.
- High Value people are constantly learning about themselves and othersThey are perpetual students of how they can become better Human Beings. They regularly work on themselves and welcome feedback from people. They understand they are not perfect but they also understand they can strive to improve as much as possible and learn in the process. When they make the wrong choice, or say the wrong thing, they are not afraid to apologise and learn from the experience. When any feelings of guilt surface, they know how to forgive themselves so that it doesn’t become a heavy load and affect their future. They take responsibility for where they are in any area of their life, and take action to change what they can change. They see problems as opportunities. Their Locus of Control is internal.
- High value people always show their BEST SELF to everyone!Regardless of who they’re talking to, they assume everyone deserves to see them at their best! They do this not to please people and make them like them more, but because they feel comfortable showing their best self to everyone. They assume people will like them (because they already like themselves)! High Value people lead with their state and their body language! Everything they do, they do detached of the outcome. If they need to communicate a difficult message to someone, they do it with assertiveness and wherever possible, humour. They always find win-win solutions!
- High value people lead balanced lifestyles
They place no more importance on any one area of their lives than another. They value their job as much as they value their family, friends, health, hobbies, and time for themselves… This allows them to enjoy every aspect of their lives, As a result, their identity is based on their life as a whole as opposed to just one aspect. Every aspect of their life is an equal source of Confidence and Happiness. Their strongest source of Confidence, however, comes from within…
- High value people are magnetic and attractive to the opposite sex!It’s a fact: Confidence is sexy. And when you can surprise someone with a new side of you over and over again, that person will inevitably feel attracted to you and your lifestyle – they’ll want to be a part of it. High Value people are magnetic, and attract the same types of people into their lives! The most important aspect to consider is that High Value people value their own company and experiences as much as finding a partner. They already have active lifestyles, engage everyone and anyone in conversation, and never compromise their standards for anyone or anything, so it is inevitable they eventually attract someone High Value like them.
So where do you start?
Behaviours are learned, so the good news is, we all have the potential to become a High Value person.
As you’re reading this, you may be thinking…”Wow…I want to be like that but I have no idea where to start, and I don’t really believe that could ever be me!” Believe me, you can become a High Value person! The journey you’re about to embark on is both exciting and scary and sometimes can be long but the results you’ll experience as a result are amazing!
Decide what behaviours you would like to exhibit instead of the ones you’re exhibiting now, and think about what needs to change in order for this to happen. If you need help and guidance, ask for it! You don’t have to go through it alone! I can help you get started and will walk with you for as long as you want me there.
Thanks for reading!